How can I get the best orgasmic experience?
September 4th, 2010 | 
Author: makeup brushes
Author: makeup brushes
Im a girl, and have been wanting to have an orgasm for some time. I’m 16, so I looked it up on here and it really wasn’t descriptive. I tried it with my finger, and when I wasn’t satisfied, I used the hard part of my round make up brush. This isn’t getting me fired up either. I’m not making noises or anything like that, am I doing something wrong?
I want to have the best orgasm possible without sex. Please help??
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Few women can orgasm from penetration alone – most women require clitoral stimulation. In other words, rub the outside, don’t put anything on the inside!
Vibrator, you can get it at Spencers, my friend got one for 75 bucks.
get turned on (wet), start rubbing your clit in slow movements and then once your turned on you can get your g-spot by using your middle finger and the one next to your pinky and insert them into your vagina curving them towards your stomach this should satisfy you. hope it helped.
what works really well for me is if you have a detachable shower head. there are usually different settings on it like vibrate and stuff and its like a vibrator but free and if you make noises the sound of the water covers it up.
If you want to masturbate in a way that will be more pleasurable and satisfying then it has been in the past, then you might need to plan how and when to do it, rather than leave it to chance. For a start, you need to ensure that you’re going to have adequate time to yourself and that you won’t be interrupted.
Begin by taking a shower, or a long, luxurious, scented bath. Soap your body all over and enjoy touching your breasts and your genitals in particular.
Dry yourself carefully, then rub your favorite lotion all over your body. Keep touching your body everywhere – it might be a good idea to stand in front of a mirror while you do it. This is your body – a body capable of giving you great pleasure – so enjoy looking at it and getting used to the sight and feel of it.
At this point, as long as you know that you’re in no danger of being disturbed, move to your bedroom. Make sure that it is warm and comfortable. Put on some relaxing music if you like. And just enjoy yourself.
Lie down on your bed and use a mirror to look at your private and intimate places. Gently spread your labia: you may want to use a spot of lubrication.
Try to tighten and relax the muscles at the base of the pelvis – these are the same muscles that you use to stop the flow of urine when you pee. Locating and strengthening these pelvic floor muscles can make it easier to reach orgasm.
If you find it difficult to know whether you’re doing this successfully, try inserting a couple of fingers inside your vagina. That way, you’ll be able to feel whether you’re tightening and relaxing the muscles or not. Many women much prefer masturbation if they can feel some bulk in the vagina at the same time as they stimulate the clitoris – so touching yourself internally might feel very good indeed.
If you now tighten and relax the muscles in rapid succession you will feel contractions of the kind that many women experience when having an orgasm.
You might also notice a warm sensation in your abdomen. Try touching yourself all over your body, including the breasts and your genitals where you will quickly find the most sensitive spots. In particular, experiment near the opening of the vagina and clitoris and stimulate yourself in whatever way feels best. So long as you do not rush, and you are keeping relaxed, then your own fingers will automatically do the right thing and will move with the right amount of speed and intensity for you.
Try to familiarize yourself with exactly how touching yourself makes you feel. Ignore everything around you. Just think about what is going on inside you, or fantasize about making love with someone you care for, or with a celebrity, or in some gorgeous and romantic place.
While you touch yourself, you might like to look at something that turns you on – pictures, perhaps, a film; even a sexy book. Interestingly men and women differ somewhat is what they find arousing.
For some women it is not enough to just use their fingers – they like to use sex aids as well. A vibrator may be extremely useful, or you could try stimulating yourself with the hand spray when you are in the shower. Use your fingers at the same time.
One reason that vibrators or running water is sometimes more effective is (as you describe) the feeling of losing control that is part of the beginning of orgasm, causes them to stop stimulating themselves and they “lose” the feeling. A vibrator, on the other hand, keeps vibrating unless you physically move it away. This can help you get “over the edge into orgasm.
If you follow the guidelines above, almost everyone should be able to learn to masturbate and have an orgasm. But remember, these are only guidelines. Experiment, and you may well find a better way to turn yourself on.
Like other sexual activity, masturbation can be improved by varying how you do it. Remember, as a woman you are usually not limited to a single orgasm as guys are – after you learn to have a single orgasm, try continuing stimulation during and after orgasm and you may find that you can have 2-3-4…20 orgasms at a time.
Most women find that their fingers do the trick wonderfully – as they instinctively match their speed or weight to our requirements. But a vibrator can help someone who finds it hard to get to orgasm and can also be useful as a change from digital masturbation.
And do remember that not all vibrators now look like lurid penises! Some are quite different nowadays. Those which work on a suction principle can be very effective. And there are others that have been designed by women sex therapists that have quite unconventional shapes. The “Hitachi Magic Wand” is often agreed on by many women to be the most effective masturbation aid on the planet.
Best of luck!